Everyone has different non negotiable aspects when it comes to dating. What is a deal breaker for me may not be a deal breaker for you but I have compiled some notes that may help you save some time while searching for a romantic partner.
I’d like to note that I am not a casual sex type of girl. I’m looking for something serious. Some of my rules may seem silly but it’s Tinder, it’s random as hell anyway. This is how I weed out the seemingly bad ones from the seemingly good ones.
**To be taken with a grain of salt.
When scanning online profiles:
- No smokers or blunt blowers. “420 friendly” is something I definitely avoid swiping yes to.
- If there’s a woman in their photos – bye, bye.
- Party boys. If they have a couple of party photos, fine. They have a social life, this can be a good thing. If every photo is of them at boardy barn. Next!
- Shirtless pics – these guys only want one thing. Same goes for the tough mudder guys with the six packs.
- Education. If the only thing listed is community college I generally don’t pick them.
- Jobs. “President, CEO,” Watch out for that type. They’re probably full of crap. No servers. No bartenders, unless they’re in grad school. Then it’s acceptable.
When meeting in person:
- Always trust your gut. If something seems “off” about the guy or girl you’re sitting across the table from, trust your intuition.
- Pay attention to the way you feel being around this person. Do you feel calm and at ease or do you want to run away ASAP? Tune in to what your mind is thinking.
- Level of attraction. Does he/she look like their photos? Are you attracted to him/her? If there’s a feeling of disgust it’s likely that those feelings aren’t going to turn themselves around.
- Are you having fun? Are you having good conversation? Could you see yourself spending more time with this person? Are you smiling?
It isn’t uncalled for to just completely go “ghost” on a person after you have met them for this first time and didn’t feel a romantic link or an attraction. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. This has both happened to me and I’ve also done this to people. At first you feel mean for doing it but if you put yourself and your own needs first and you’re simply not feeling the situation, it’s okay to never talk to them again. This is online dating.